Please accept my apology (standard:Inspirational stories, 904 words)
Author: Godspenman	Added: Feb 22 2010	Views/Reads: 3507/0	Story vote: 0.00 (0 votes)
Once again, we, the American consumer, have been treated to a celebrity apology. I am not sure what we have done to be treated to such highfalutin entertainment. If I could find out, I would immediately stop doing whatever it is I was doing.

Once again, we, the American consumer, have been treated to a celebrity
apology. I am not sure what we have done to be treated to such 
highfalutin entertainment. If I could find out, I would immediately 
stop doing whatever it is I was doing. 

I certainly do not downplay apologies. Heaven knows, I have done my
share of apologizing throughout the years. And, reflecting on past 
activities, I am looking forward to many more apologies in the future. 
In fact, right now I just would like to apologize for anything I might 
do or say in the future that would in any way offend anybody. I feel 
better now that I have said that. 

As a connoisseur of apologies, I would like to point out that there are
three types of apologies common to mankind. I want to emphasize the 
word "man." It seems to me, as someone of experience, that we, husbands 
in particular, are usually on the husband-side of making an apology. I 
do not know if it is supposed to be this way, but it usually ends up 
this way as a matter of course. 

The first type of apology is when you have done something wrong and you
know it. Believe me, nobody since Adam has ever done anything wrong and 
not known it. They may deny it, but behind every denial is a lie. 

I think doing something wrong is universal among everybody born of a
woman. Everybody makes a mistake at some point in his or her life. 
Those who have made no mistakes are living in a fairytale world of make 
believe. They make believe they are perfect and people not wanting to 
cross them go along with the ruse. But normally speaking, making a 
mistake is part of growing up. 

Making a mistake is not the problem; it is what you do after you have
made that mistake. That is where apology comes into play. 

The second type of apology is when what you done or said offends
someone. This covers a lot of territory. It does not matter what you 
say or do, someone somewhere is going to be offended. Even if you do 
not do something, someone is offended because of your inactivity. I do 
not know what to do here. The only thing to do is always have a generic 
apology ready for someone who has been offended. 

Then there is the third type of apology. It has taken me many years to
understand this type, and yet I must confess to being a novice in this 
area. This apology is for everyone who is married, particularly 
husbands. 

Every man goes into the life of matrimonial bliss believing he has
married the girl of his dreams. I know, I was one. 

The problem here is simply this. Have you ever analyzed your dreams? My
dreams are all scary, convoluted, hideous with a complete twisted sense 
of reality. If I had to live with my dreams, I would immediately go 
insane. 

This is where harsh reality hits the pavement of lifelong companionship.


My simple rule is this, if you want to marry the girl of your dreams
never wake up. Because, as soon as anybody wakes up, reality hits you 
in the face. That "girl of your dreams" could become a nightmare when 
she realizes you are not the "man of her dreams." 

This just shows the difference between husbands and wives. The wife goes
into the marriage relationship knowing that she has a lot of work to do 
to make her new husband the man of her dreams. And she will work at 
this until the day she dies, or he dies, whichever comes first. To her 
it is an upward road to marital nirvana. 

The husband starts at marital nirvana and it takes several years for him
to realize that the person he married is not an angel but rather a 
human being subject to all the frailty of humanity that he is subjected 
to. 

The husband starts out at perfection, while the wife has perfection as a
goal. And if you have been married for any length of time, you will 
understand the kind of difficulties this presents. It is the kind of 
difficulties that call forth the apology ritual. Whoever designed 
apologies certainly had married people in mind. Or, better yet, 
husbands in mind. It is my experience that husbands need to exercise 
the apology ritual much more than his better half. It is the prescribed 
pathway to self-improvement that every wife delights in. 

Therefore, we who are bound with the bonds of matrimony have greater
use, especially if we are husband, of the apology ritual. And, this is 
not a bad thing. It is a well-known fact that husbands have a greater 
chance of self-improvement. When I say "self-improvement," I am 
assuming that my "self" is greatly facilitated by my wife. This is the 
advantage I have over the unmarried sojourner of life's pitted highway. 


There is no better relationship than marriage. Jesus made this quite
clear. "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall 
cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they 
are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined 
together, let not man put asunder" (Matthew 19:5-6 KJV). 

No matter what the relationship is, the apology is the first step
towards a better relationship. 


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