Does Marriage Work? (standard:non fiction, 586 words)
Author: Jason Donegan	Added: Apr 10 2002	Views/Reads: 3513/1	Story vote: 0.00 (0 votes)
One person's opinion of marriage and how it'll work, does it for you?

Does marriage work? By Jason Donegan 9th April 2002 

I suppose it's an familiar question asked of newly weds when they've
been married for a few months. Already married people might be asking 
for reassurances because either their's hasn't or has. People about to 
be married might be looking for a different kind of reassurance or 
maybe even an excuse to change their mind. Some of the more cynical out 
there may even say people are looking for reassurance that it's 
something that should never be done by sane people. Me, I think it's 
been the best thing in the world to happen to me. 

As a single man I would have described myself as a friendly person to
the opposite sex, I enjoyed their company and they certainly enjoyed 
mine. Having a well paid job and being able to hold a conversation must 
have certainly made up for my redundant looks. To say that when I met 
my wife 14 months prior to us actually getting married I heard 
explosions and fireworks would be a complete untruth. We never fell 
hopelessly in love, we never walked about on clouds and heard angels 
sing by any stretch of the imagination. All through my single life I've 
never actually thought to myself that 'This is the one,' but I've 
always been able to say that, 'This isn't the one,' Until I met my wife 
that is. 

If you read the romantic trashy novels and watch the Hollywood slush
films then you'd think true love comes with adoring and being adored 
but with me and my wife I can't honestly say that. Sure I'm incredibly 
turned on by her and we enjoy a physical and highly enjoyable sex life, 
but there's so much more to our relationship than that. I'm sure when 
my own physique begins to wane and her attraction is replaced by a good 
book at bedtime then the real foundation that we've built our 
relationship upon will show it's true worth. 

To say our marriage is the celebration of a fantastic friendship would
be an massive understatement. We don't share the same interests but we 
are interested in what each other likes and wishes to partake in. We 
don't hate what each other hates but he don't dislike different things. 
We respect that each other has friends who enjoy our company and 
because of that we share a good relationship. We don't own each other 
and probably wouldn't want to. We're both good at something that the 
other isn't and that's what makes it such a good relationship. 

Too many times we see domestic arguments rage between couples about the
stupidest of things. Sure dropping paint on a carpet whilst decorating 
the bathroom that the wife asked you to paint on a sunday morning when 
you wanted to walk the dog instead could cause a massive argument, but 
it can be cleaned easily. Even the car she scrapped on the garden fence 
that she can never back into can be repaired quite cheaply. But we must 
remember that there are situations that the energy generated by these 
situations is better suited. If you don't have enough to channel then 
you're going to struggle and reliance on the other will cause even more 
stress. 

A marriage is a partnership, if you ran a business with a business
colleague you'd make that partnership work. You wouldn't set up such an 
arrangement with somebody just because you thought they were cute, so 
why would you with a marriage?


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