Love and Hate Part 4 (The Conclusion) (standard:Editorials, 2049 words) [4/4] show all parts
Author: Lori	Added: Feb 03 2008	Views/Reads: 2724/2461	Part vote: 0.00 (0 votes)
I've finally gotten around to finishing my essay series on love and hate.

Click here to read the first 75 lines of the story

Now I know everyone got teary eyed. I know I did when I read it. Can you
image a love this pure? I don't know if I can. I don't know a man alive 
who would do this for me. I guess the point is for you to wish for this 
and then realize, after 20 years of looking for it, this love isn't 
real. It's for stories, like this one, and fantasies. Or could it 
actually exist somewhere in this world? 

“I get the best feeling in the world when you say hi, or smile at me,
because I know, even if it's just for a second, I've crossed your 
mind.” - Unknown 

Every woman I know has said something to this effect. I'm always telling
the one I love to think about me. I'm hoping, against hope, if he does 
think about me he will smile and long to see my face. Yeah I know.  
This doesn't always work. Most of the time when he's thinking about me, 
in my opinion, it's a passing thought. Or he regrets me entering his 
head at all. But, wouldn't it be nice ladies if, for just once, someone 
would say something like this to us instead of it us being the ones to 
say it? 

There's one I really like, but it's too long to put up for this. It
starts in the 10th grade, where a boy falls in love with a girl. He's 
shy so he doesn't tell her, is her best friend instead. In the 11th 
grade, she gets dumped by a boyfriend and calls the boy to come comfort 
her.  He does it. Her date for the Senior Prom backs out at the last 
minute.  She asks her best friend to take her. They have a wonderful 
time. They graduate and move on with their lives. She gets married and 
is thrilled when he shows up for her wedding day. Through all this he's 
telling himself it would be better to be her friend than to risk her 
not feeling the same. At her funeral someone reads a diary entry from 
her high school days. The entry says the exact same thing he's been 
saying all these years. “I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he 
doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want 
him to know that I don't want to be just a friend, I love him but I'm 
too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me!” 
The man whispers he wished he had too. 

The moral to the story? Don't wait until it's too late to tell someone
you love them. You may be their friend for years, but you never know 
what tomorrow will bring. 

The last one I'm including was written, believe it or not, by a man. It
inspired me to find the love, within myself, to finish what I started 
months ago. I wanted to give hope of love for all of us. And this 
little saying says everything in my heart. 

Dear Girls (from us guys) . . . 

*Don't assume guys won't care where you are, because we do. It makes us
feel secure to know our girlfriends aren't off flirting with guys we've 
never heard of. 

*Also, don't talk about your ex-boyfriends. We never have, nor ever
will, respect or like them, nor do we want to hear about them. When you 
do, you're asking your boyfriend to be jealous. You're asking your 
boyfriend to lose trust. 

*On that, don't hump everything that walks into the room. We don't care
if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other 
guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks 
into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing 
us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk 
to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging we're still there. 

*Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/ cute/
stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop 
trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. 
Yeah, you can quote me. 

*Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Smile and say "thank you." Let
us pay. Don't "feel bad." We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and 
say - everybody together now - "thank you." 

*Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know nobody's
looking, we'll be more impressed. 

*You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in
the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest 
skirt you have, put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for 
WHOM you are and not WHAT you are. 

*Don't flirt with guys when we're not around. We'll find out. Trust us.
We have eyes everywhere. And when we find out, we're pissed. Not 
necessarily with the guys you flirted with, more-so with you. 

*Don't take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing.
See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily. Stop using 
magazines/media as your bible. 

*Don't talk about how hot Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that. 

*Whatever happened to the word "handsome"? Why does everything have to
be "hot/sexy"? I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with 
"Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey Baby/ Stud/ Cutie/ Sexy" or whatever 
else you can think of. Claiming girls, or guys, to be "hot" shows 
immaturity. 

*Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right
by a guy, don't wait for him to change. Ditch his sorry, 
disgrace-to-the-male-population ass, and find someone who will treat 
you with utter respect. Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who 
will make you smile when you're at your lowest.- Mel 

To know a man wrote this makes me hope in their species. It gives me a
sense of knowing the person I love better. It makes me strive to do 
these things with/for him. And it makes me love him even more on the 
off chance he feels the same about me. 

So I'm concluding this piece on love and hate with a simple wish. I wish
for everyone who reads this to come away with a feeling of love in 
their hearts, not only for someone else, but also for themselves. I 
still believe you can't truly love someone until you love yourself 
first. Believe in yourself so you can believe in others. Respect 
yourself so you'll know what it looks like when it's staring you in the 
face. Hold yourself in case no one else will do it. Take care of 
yourself until you find someone who wants to do it for you. And dream 
the dreams of love you need to make life more bearable. Above all, 
throw away the hate and embrace the love. 

© February 2, 2008 by Lori 

References: The quotes I got for this piece was found at
http://www.boardofwisdom.com/default.asp?start=71&topic=1005&listname=Lo
ve 



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