Cry Baby (standard:Creative non-fiction, 2096 words)
Author: MandyPants	Added: Feb 26 2005	Views/Reads: 3935/2398	Story vote: 0.00 (0 votes)
Do things always have to be that bad?

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next time you are so upset about that party being cancelled, or your 
not having enough cash to away to that cottage or over your boyfriend 
or girlfriend troubles, take a second to think. Think about real 
problems like cancer, physical and mental dissabilities, homelessness, 
AIDS, chronic diseases or starvation, then maybe your little issue 
won't seem so important. 

You know the old fire rule "Stop, Drop and Roll" well I have a knew one
for us to live our lives by, it is "Stop, Feel and Think." If everyone 
would just take an extra minute to think about the things around them 
and to try to think of things from another perspective, we would all be 
a lot happier. 

We have to stop waiting for a savior to come into our lives and make
everything okay for us. The chances of that happeneing are so slim, we 
would have better odds trying something else. Putting our energy into a 
solution and not into the problem, is a start. Realizing that we can 
handle the situations in our life, comes next. 

If you feel overwhelmed with something in your life, then slow down and
take the time to try to change it. If you feel hopeless in a particular 
part of your life, then search for an answer that will help you to 
regain your power. If we are lucky, we have many days of our lives to 
work through our problems, so why don't we? Why do we just throw up our 
hands and recoil. If you can't find exactly what you want at a given 
time, than take what is closest to it and be satisfied. 

Sadness has been said to be a disease of the mind. It starts gradually
and then builds up onto itself over time. At that point it is hard to 
prioritize which troubling thing is at the start, or which to eliminate 
first. This task is difficult, but it doesn't have to stay that way. 
You would be surprised at how a different approach can change your way 
of seeing things. 

If you don't know what is troubling you, which a lot of people think is
the case, then distact yourself from the issue. Find something new that 
you enjoy and implement it into your weekly routine. By doing this you 
may gain some insight into your inner self and discover a way to change 
things. 

Usually at the root of depression within a person, is a poor self
esteem. Maybe you don't believe that you deserve or could sustain 
something better than what you have. Still, there is no way that you 
believe that you deserve to feel so badly. If you don't love yourself, 
hang around with someone who does or did. Pay attention to what they 
seem/seemed to like about you, or to the role that you play/played in 
their life. 

You must be giving them something, otherwise they wouldn't keep coming
around. Determine what it is that you think you are giving them and be 
proud of whatever that is. You are a good friend, you are a good 
teacher to them, you are a good lover, or a good husband or wife, 
whatever it is, you should be pleased with yourself. Afterwards, 
anytime that you fear that you have no purpose or worth to anyone, 
remember that person and remind yourself that you do, or did. 

I am not exactly sure why, but it is hard for most people to be a good
friend to themselves. I guess that we have unrealistic expectations of 
ourselves and we are dissapointed when we turn out to be less than 
perfect in a situation. We want ourselves to be "the best that we can 
be" and to ourselves that means flawless. No one is flawless and no one 
is always the best that they can be either. We can only try to do our 
best. 

In accessing a situation regarding yourself having done something that
you are not proud of, consider the reasons that at the time, compelled 
you to act the way you did. By doing this, you may be able to forgive 
yourself for whatever it was that you did, and to move on. In most 
cases whatever happened is probably not as bad as you feared. It could 
probably be forgotten by everyone, if you would just let go. 

I realize that it is the little things in life that give us drama. Those
small things that happen daily and that fill our minds and our 
schedules. I wouldn't want it any other way, but it is our attitudes in 
how we see these things that make the situation what it is to you. If 
you are sad all of the time, you will see sad things all of the time. 
If you are happy, you will have many reasons to continue to be happy. 

Contrary to popular belief your attitude is something that you choose to
have, not something that you were given and are thus forced to control. 
You and only you, can decide if you are going to have a good day or a 
bad one. Yes, of coarse there are things that we can't control that 
will effect your feelings at the time. That doesn't mean that it has to 
ruin your whole day, if it does, than you made the choice for it too. 
What about the good things that happened that day, as small as they may 
have been, you chose to ignore them and to focas on what you did not 
like. 

If you are overwhelmed by a certain feeling, like sadness, anger or
frustration, it is because you have not learned to deal with that 
specifac emotion. So, as a result it has built up inside you and it 
will come out anytime that it can. Our parents and friends teach us as 
children how to work through our feelings. Whether by example or in 
reaction to a way that we had expressed ourselves, we learn from the 
people around us. 

As with many things from our childhoods, the way we express ourselves,
may need some additional scrutiny or effort in our adult lives. We all 
know by now that our parents and friends were not perfect, no matter 
how much they seemed to be, or thought they were at the time. 
Expressing your emotions in a way that works for you, is something that 
needs to be learned. 

We are not all, a victim to our feelings. We are not powerless when it
comes to feeling or to expressing them, we are in control, or we can 
be. Think about how we react to different things, watch the people 
around you in their daily lives. You will see how some of them will 
appear to be upset about something but they will still maintain a 
balanced, rational mind. They will allow themselves to be upset, they 
will understand why they are, and they will continue on with their day. 
 They will enjoy anything to be enjoyed, and take each new upset as 
it's own problem, requiring it's own solution. 

Everyone can learn to be this way, it is not something we are born with.
Just as we learn how to have a bad temper or how to laugh and play, we 
are taught how to communicate our thoughts and feelings. I am speaking 
of our relationship with others but also of the one that we have with 
ourselves. It is in how we treat our own self, that we are able to make 
changes in how we treat others. 

Thank you


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